Updated: Oct 29, 2018
Social Media is exhausting. Somehow, over the years, it’s turned into a dumpster fire of opinions, arguments, and doom. It can definitely get overwhelming. However, constant negativity does not have to dominate your life! You can use social media to curate your own personalized, inspiring, and motivating content.
Things that get you fired up (in a good way) should be the only things you’re feeding your mind. Garbage in, garbage out. If you’re constantly feeding your mind garbage, guess what? Your life is going to start filling up with garbage.
We’ve come up with a 5-step program to help you cut the B.S. and quit the negativity addiction.
#1 is very simple: Take a break.
“Ma’am, put down the cell phone.” The best way to kick off your cleansing is with a good old fashioned diet. Set a number of days (or weeks) and take a break from logging in. We recommend deleting the apps from your phone entirely. You’ll start to notice yourself instinctively reaching for the Facebook app, but stay strong! Think about the things you used to love doing as a kid, and pick up a few hobbies again. You can use this time to really reflect on how social media affects your life, and bring those revelations into the next step.
#2: Purge the toxicity.
After your social media fasting, you’re ready for the fun part: letting that sh*t go. Go through and unfollow, delete, block, do whatever it takes to remove the things that irk you the most. Then, take it a step further and unfollow the people and things that aren’t particularly inspiring. If you don’t want to blatantly unfriend people, Facebook’s new unfollow feature makes this purge more polite. This step takes a good bit of self-awareness and reflection, so really put some thought into it. If seeing pictures of girls in bikinis makes you feel bad about your body, *UNFOLLOW*. If that one friend from high school bragging about her life makes you gag, *UNFOLLOW*. If it doesn’t bring joy to your life and make you want to go out and kick-ass, it is not worth keeping around.
#3: Fill your feed with the things you want to see.
Imagine your feed as a scrapbook. You can fill your scrapbook with whatever you please, so why would you put pictures of things you hate in your scrapbook?
Take the time to explore. Research helpful accounts, role models, or news channels that won’t make you want to slam your head against your desk. Follow, add, join the group, save the pin. Repeat until your timeline is full of the things that make you happy.
#4: Be the change you want to see in your niche.
If you have a specific interest or vision, yet you haven’t quite found the outlet for it, create it! Social Media can be, and should be, a tool for connecting with people who share your values. Creating a group or a new account not only gives you a tiny hobby, it also can bring positivity into your life as you connect with others who share your interest! Who knows, you might have created a safe space or positive change in somebody else’s life too.
#5: Try to worry less about the opinions of others.
Life is hard, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it. Be authentically you, because no one is as you as you are. And if you try to be someone else, then you’re depriving the world of you-ness! If you live in constant fear of being judged, you’re going to have a pretty hard time. The negativity that worry brings will bring you full-circle back to step #1 in this process.
So please, for the love of God, don’t lose yourself in the chaos. There will always be someone, somewhere who hates your guts. And the sooner you come to terms with the fact, the sooner you will be out there kicking ass being the you-est you there is.
It’s so important to stop and think about what you’re feeding your mind on a daily basis. And sometimes it’s hard to remember that YOU are actually totally in control of what you see online. News bums you out? Stop reading the news. Ex-girlfriend making you sad? Stop stalking them.
If it doesn’t bring joy to your life, there’s no justifiable reason to keep consuming it. You have the power to create your own personal vision board and fill your life with positivity.
Let us know in the comments if you’ve ever fasted from social media. What did and didn’t work for you? Tag a friend who needs to hear this!